Divorce Mediation NJ - Mediator helps in Reconciliation & Mediation in New Jersey and worldwide
WE ARE HERE TO BUILD RELATIONSHIPS -- WHETHER YOU DIVORCE OR NOT
Divorce can break both relationships and people, and our job is to make sure that does not happen. We know how painful and difficult facing divorce can be. "I am Stan Posthumus, and I am here to be your friend and confidant to see that you, and especially your children, come through this without being broken."
Whether you are facing a divorce, or minor relationship conflict, you will eventually be required to make decisions about things you have never considered. We are here to help make sure that you make good ones. With decades of experience, specializing in divorce and family relationship problems, we operate not only here in New Jersey, but across the country and internationally as well! Whatever your questions may be, please feel free to call me today for your FREE CONSULTATION! CALL 1 888 735-2838 or TOLL FREE 1(888)REL-ATE8 .
Still have questions? See what our clients have to say, or just watch their video testimonials! We take pride in being different from other mediators and lawyers. Here at BeyondWinWin, innovation is a habit.
POINTS TO CONSIDER: HOW TO FIND THE BEST SOLUTION FOR YOU
| Relationships First - here at BeyondWinWin, we know just how difficult and complicated it can be to face divorce and navigate ‘the system.’ We are entirely focused on helping you through any and all crises in the most efficient way possible, whether in the end it means divorce or reconciliation. Our qualified support staff members are available to you 24/7. | Regular mediators are not as well qualified -- They see their job only to divide assets and to leave you to "the system". They are not there to help you through with any more than a legally based agreement. Most have other day-jobs and are driven by the 9 to 5 business model. |
| Speedy Service - We offer fast resolution. Typically you have a settlement the same day ending the strife and conflict immediately rather than have it drag on for ages. Our experience shows one long session clears the air and stops the unpleasantness. | Indeterminate Resolution - Regular mediators typically take many sessions, some take weeks and others months of ongoing strife to find a settlement. Litigation can take months and years to reach settlement - usually by force. |
| Convenient - We offer to meet with you at a time that suites you. Typically we meet in your home at any time you choose, or any other place, saving you both time and the cost of travel and parking. | Inconvenient - Regular mediators and attorneys require you and your spouse to take time off work and to travel to their offices during normal working hours, so you spouses pay in time and travel. |
| Fit Your Budget - We can fit costs to your budget. Your costs total costs will often be less than a retainer asked by a lawyer. We offer a reduced fee for families in financial difficulties. | Expensive - Mediation fees vary enormously. Lawyers seldom start with a retainer less than $3000 and litigation can cost tens of thousands of dollars. |
| The Best Decisions - We help you come to a joint decision. You need to make a joint decision to divorce or not, like you made a joint decision to get married ... and you need someone with the most diverse experience to help you come up with a custom solution | Limited Decisions - Mediators will help you pick between a few options on how to divide children and assets. Lawyers help you fight using the law. Their adversarial experience limits their options. |
| Experience - Stan has more than 20 (twenty) years in full-time private mediation practice after 7 years in a law firm. Choose a mediator with experience and an exceptional track record. Call and get to know your mediator first. | Limited experience - Most family and divorce mediators have a different day-job. Few have 30 years combined experience in counselling, law and full-time mediation. |
| Professional References - View the video testimonials. These are personal references from judges, lawyers, therapists and men and women from every walk of life. Read the credentials. | Unknown Quantities - Find a mediator with many years of experience and with people of all backgrounds willing to talk publicly about their personal experience. |
| Great Settlement Rate - Virtually all matters are settled (100%). You both need to settle all matters amicably. It also needs to be lasting for the sake of your children and for your relationship as parents. | Average Settlement Rate - Most mediators have a settlement rate of about 60% They are unable to help with high-conflict cases. Lawyers "win" 50% of their cases and lose 50% |
| Personal Service - We take all enquiries in person whenever possible. We realize you want to talk to the right person right from the start. You do not want to repeat yourself to each staff member when you are looking for personal help. | Random Service - You will likely get an answering machine or a receptionist because most are part-time mediators who do not get enough referals to keep them busy full-time. |
| Relationship Focused - We help towards a great relationship whether you divorce or not. Children suffer more with unresolved conflict than divorce. If you are experiencing pain and conflict we recommend you get out of your present relationship - resolving conflict together is the very best way to build a new relationship. | Settlement Focused - Regular mediators look at dividing assets and children for a divorce only. Like lawyers they do not see themselves as educators for great relationships. They do not give methods of resolving conflict as "take-aways". You have to go back next time. |
| Communication - Learn to communicate. We teach you to communicate differently, to build the relationship you want, to change and to resolve conflict in a way that builds relationships you want. No more "settling" for what is. | Same Old... - Do not rely on the mediator to do it for you. You need to learn to do it yourself or you will need to go back to them. Lawyers will teach you to use lawyers and who wants that? |
| Reconciliation or Divorce - We help you resolve the conflicts then to work it out, either way. You do not want to get pushed into divorce or reconciliation. Many couples --- 8 out of 10 change their mind spontaneously when they learn to communicate. More importantly these new relationships last. | Divorce Only - Regular mediators and lawyers assume (incorrectly) that the only solution is divorce. Their results show - couples always divorce. Couples change their minds many times before getting to a lawyer or mediator - why not after that - how neutral are they?? |
| Communication - We are the original developers of Focused Thinking Mediation. We possess a unique way of understanding and explaining communication that empowers both talking and listening and we share it with you. What you learn will be useful to you in every walk of life - in all your relationships. | Adversarial - Regular mediators do not have access to our technology. Like lawyers they keep doing what they always do and get the same results. You want custom solutions, but do not expect any more than boilerplate solutions. |
| Relationships - We will show you the structure of relationships and how to construct your own. Knowledge is power and you can create / construct new relationships when you learn how they work. | Problem Focused - Healing relationships is beyond the scope of regular mediators and lawyers. They do not see their task as educating those in conflict how to create new relationships. |
| Change - Learn to do things differently so you get different results. We teach you to communicate differently, how to build the relationship you want, how to change and how to resolve conflict in a way that builds relationships. | Same old same old . . . - You need to learn and change yourself -- or you will need to go back to them. Lawyers will teach you to use lawyers and who wants that? |
| Resolve Conflict - You will learn to prevent and resolve conflict, not just manage it. Managing conflict is like managing genocide and does not stop all the hurt and pain. | Continue Conflict - Typically mediators and attorneys help you come up with a short-term agreement. They do not teach you how to resolve conflict. |
| Free Consult - We will talk to you and answer your concerns when you call. You need to know what you are getting and who you will be working with. | Free Consult ?? - Some mediators offer a "free consult" to trap you into working with them. Free consults with lawyers will frighten you into fighting. |
| Professional Plus - We pride ourselves on our professionalism. Beyond that we will be a friend and be there for you. We will be there to help you deal with what could otherwise be the most painful experience of your life. Our clients come mostly from referals - that speaks volumes. | Just Second Jobs - In our books mediators who hold other jobs as their main source of income are not professional mediators. Neither are other "professionals" who (mis)represent themselves as professional mediators. |
| Therapy - What we offer is therapeutic, but we are not counselors or therapists. All we need to solve every problem is enough information and the know-how to use it. We are educators and we believe most men and women are normal and are not afflicted with pathology and do not need 'counseling' or 'therapy'. | Therapy outside Mediation - Other professionals in general are very careful to keep 'counseling' and 'therapy' out of mediation. They stay away from healing old wounds. This tends to perpetuate the aggravation and tension that couples must endure. |