Be who you want to be

WE CAN CHOOSE WHO WE WANT TO BE

As we grow we mature.  We turn from a child who echoes a parent's voice into an individual who echoes others' voices.  Eventually, hopefully, we choose who we want to be and discard the voices we do not want to direct us.

Some follow and turn into their parents.  Others react and spend their lives being the opposite of their parent (s).  Few mature and are able to truly choose who they want to be.

Focused Thinking Technology offers a path to self-creation. The first step is to learn to listen to what others are saying.  Then we must learn to listen and hear what we ourselves are saying.

Everything we hear has two sides (at least, but let's keep it simple). There is the perspective of the speaker and that of the listener - you. The trick is to help your brain turn those two perspectives into one new understanding - an new three-dimensional understanding that puts the two perspectives together in a way that we could previously only see in two-dimensions.

The trick is to us language that puts two perspectives together. Most language does the inverse of combining perspectives, it excludes one in favor of the other.  This is the basis of adversarial thinking.

The scientific principle of Focused Thinking is simple.  Each of our eyes sees in two-dimensions, yet when they communicate we "see" a new three-dimensional picture that is different from what we see (saw) with each eye and we have a new (and deeper) understanding that we can never have with just one eye. We possess the mental architecture to put visual perspectives together, now all we need to do is use language within that pre-existing architecture to create better understanding between people.

Language can be either constructive or destructive of relationships.  When we use language that is constructive within the mental architecture we possess we develop another dimension of understanding.  The understanding between two people is "their relationship".

We can thus choose who we want to be by creating the relationships we want.  We can choose who we want to be.  We can choose peace (or not).