Stan Posthumus' Credentials

Stanley Posthumus MSW JD APM


Developed and researched Focused Thinking Mediation over 25 years.  This process uses language as a technology to enable people to be ‘who they want to be’ through their communication with self and others, to build resilient relationships, master personal and inter-personal change and to resolve conflict in a way that is constructive for their relationships.  Divorcing couples that learn and apply this technology reconcile and maintain lasting healthy and happy relationships in about 80% of cases.


Stan is occupied full-time with mediation and researching relationships.  This work includes mainly mediating divorce related matters, writing books, working on TV documentaries and a reality show about mediation.


University of Natal, South Africa – US equivalents:
• MSW (Master of Social Work)
• JD (Juris Docorate)


• World Mediation Forum (WMF) - 2005 Member of the Steering Committee
• Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR), previously (AFM) - Advanced Practitioner Member
• New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators (NJAPM) - Advanced Practitioner Member
• Association of Family and Conciliation Courts (AFCC) - member
• National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges (NCJFCJ) - Associate member


• Stanley has run his private mediation practice since 1989 - he has mediated over 2,000 divorce cases
• Successfully mediated hundreds of the most difficult kinds of family disputes – both private and Court referred clients - see research
• Clients include ambassadors, senators, company executives and people from all walks of life- see
• Nearly all disputes settled and virtually no disputants return to litigation
• Many of those in divorce litigation reconcile spontaneously
• He has trained many professionals to be family mediators:
• Trainees include attorneys, psychologists, mental health professionals, educators
• Training offered includes basic and advanced mediation skills using hands-on and advanced video techniques


• Personal Assistant, (1983 - 1989) K. Swart & Co. Attorneys, Durban, SA.
• Specialized in Family Court conflict and juvenile offence cases


• Personnel Officer, (1982) Head Office, Local Govt., Durban, SA. Social work and administrative duties
• Family Social Worker, (1979 - 1981) Government Welfare Department, SA. - 1981 Probation work with juvenile offenders and rehabilitation of dysfunctional families. Officer, 2Lt, seconded to South African Defense Force for two years as military welfare officer for troops and their families in Namibia.


• World Mediation Forum: (WMF) Sardinia, Italy (2000); Buenos Aires, Argentina (2002)
• Administration for Children and Families, Working Together to Strengthen Families Conference, Pacific Hub, Seattle, Washington (2002)
• Four universities, invited by Chief Family Court Judge McMahon New Zealand (2002)
• National Conference of the Children's Rights Council (13th), Bethesda, MD (2001)
• National Association of Gifted Children (NAGC) Atlanta, GA (2000)
• International Peer Helpers Association (NPHA) Boston, MA (2000)
• Conference for Peer Mediators (NCEF) Gorham, NH (2000)
• Academy of Family Mediators: (AFM) now (ACR) San Francisco, CA; Salt Lake City, UT 1998, 2000
• National Conference on Peacemaking and Conflict Resolution (1979); Phoenix, AZ; Pittsburgh, PA (1999)
• NY State National Conference on Dispute Resolution: Rochester, NY 1998
• New York State Conference (sponsored by NYSDRA): Suffern, NY 1997
• Smart Marriages Conference (six states) 1998 - 2004

GUEST LECTURER - Focused Thinking Mediation

• Columbia University, New York, NY (1996)
• Syracuse University, Syracuse, NY (1997)
• Albany Law School, Albany, NY (1997)
• Focused Thinking Masters level, Plymouth State, NH (1998 - 2001) Advanced Conflict Resolution for high school and adult educators
• Professional Associations
• Boards of Education, High School, Middle School
• Family Court Judges, Detroit, MI; Lansing, MI
• Legislature, Lansing, MI
• Leadership Development Institute, Madison, WI
• Church Organizations, US and Canada
• Not-For-Profit Organization, KY
• Sullivan University, Louisville, KY


• Focused Thinking - 1989 – present - South Africa, NJ, NY, NH, WI, MA, KY


• Tested and monitored effects of Focused Thinking Mediation on extremely high conflict cases in Family Court, Detroit, MI


• Recorded Realty Shows for Television, publication pending
• Recorded a documentary program for TV about mediation, publication pending
• Authored a book on Focused Thinking Mediation - publication pending
• Co-Authoring an academic book on conflict resolution for colleges, beginning stages
• Developing a online Training program, publication pending
• Developing a Video / Computer Based Training program, publication pending
• Developing board games to teach Focused Thinking, publication pending
• Developing and expanding this website